An important first step is to open our minds and hearts to honestly question the wisdom of our past decisions, our resulting daily routines as well as our alleged like and dislikes. In the process we will discover that there are many dumb things that we have done in our lives, lying to ourselves being one of the dumbest. Well, I did.
“If we are uncritical we shall always find what we want: we shall look for,
and find, confirmations, and we shall look away from, and not see,
whatever might be dangerous for our pet theories.”
(Karl Popper, philosopher of science and philosopher)
Will we admit to having made mistakes?
Will we admit to having lied to ourselves?
Will we stop lying to ourselves?
Do we want to grow (up) in more ways than one?
“”Trust and belief are two prime considerations. You must not
allow yourself to be opinionated. You must say “Wait, Let me see”.
And above all, you must be honest with yourself.””
(James Dean, actor)
“Question everything generally thought to be obvious.”
(Dieter Rams, designer)
“The unexamined life is not worth living.”
We will often find the answers to many of our personal problems – our often undefinable unease and discomfort – in the past, which, incidentally, is a major reason, why we often lie to ourselves.
“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for
most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.”
(Theodore Roosevelt, politician)
Honestly investigating our own past can be quite difficult, especially if one has been brought up in an authoritarian manner. I was, by the way, so I know what I’m talking about.
“Investigate what is, not what pleases.”
(Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, writer and statesman)
Authoritarian people usually don’t give advice, they issue instructions, which are not to be questioned. Not only that, but since they consider themselves to be successful, they are convinced that they are doing others a favor by turning them into copies of themselves. A typical command and control structure is the result. Authoritarian people condition others, they don’t educate them.
“Control your own destiny or someone else will.”
(Jack Welch, business executive)
“In the animal kingdom, the rule is, eat or be eaten.
In the human kingdom, define or be defined.”
(Thomas Szasz, psychiatrist)
Who wants to be someone else’s copy?
Why should we bury our wishes under a pile of garbage of external expectations?
Wouldn’t it be great to be an original?
Are we subconsciously being managed?
If we are not our true selves, chance are that we’re not only dissatisfied and unhappy, but also falling short of our potentials. Selling ourselves short is a terrible waste. For everybody.
“It’s better to be hated for what you are, than
to be loved for what you are not.”
(André Gide, author)
“It’s never too late to become what you might have been.”
(George Elliott, writer)
“You must be free in order to create. But first
you must recognize that you’re a prisoner.”
(Luc de Brabandère/Alan Iny, authors)
“If we didn’t do this already, would we
get into it the way we are now?”
(Peter Drucker, management consultant and educator)
“A man who views the world the same at 50 as he
did at 20, has wasted 30 years of his life.”
(Muhammad Ali, boxer)
“We forfeit three-fourths of our lives
in order to be like other people.”
(Arthur Schopenhauer, philosopher)
“The story of the human race is the story of
men and women selling themselves short.”
(Abraham Maslow, psychologist)
“If you don’t have a strategy, you’rw
part of someone’s strategy.”
(Alvin Toffler, futurist)
“It’s better to fail with your own vision, than
following another man’s vision.”
(Johann Cruyff, footballer)
Whose life is it anyway?
We only have one life and our time is limited. Time is a valuable, non-renewable resource, but time is no dictator.
Why not use our time to lead our own life and leave this world with a smile on our face?
Why not blaze our own trail?
Don’t we want to live our own life and accept the responsibility for it?
Do we want to hand our life over to others and let them script it?